She will make you work for her love — and that’s the only thing that really keeps a relationship together.
For some people, the entire womankind is complicated and hard to understand. They think that men are easy to read, women are not and that they are holding things back from you. Well the reality is a woman is as likely to be complicated as a man. It is about individuals not genders. Having said that, if you happen to find yourself in love with a woman who really is complicated, don’t wallow in self pity. It could perhaps be the best thing to happen to you.
Your life will not be bland
However appealing or charming simplicity sounds, it does get boring in the end. If your woman is complicated, then it is really a blessing in disguise. There would definitely be quite a few highs and lows. But they will keep you on our toes and once you have conquered the difficult bits, you’d be thankful for the refreshment and change that it caused.
Complicated women or men, for that matter are never born complicated. It is not genetical. It is our life that shapes us. And having had a complicated life is not necessarily a bad thing; it doesn’t mean that everything was horrible. It just could have been too many things to handle at a time, but they have their own adrenaline rush. And if a woman has lived such an eventful life, rest assured you’ll hear all about it. There will always be something good and exciting for you two to talk over tea or coffee. It might not sound enough to you now, but it is very important in a relationship. Many relationships start out great when there is intrigue and adventure but soon fizzle out when the partners realize they have nothing new to keep the interest of the other.
If she is complicated, then there is a good chance is that this complexity arises from her silence. She keeps to herself and doesn’t feel it right to bother you with her troubles. But making her comfortable enough to share her life with you will be reward enough for you when you finally manage to break down her walls.
There will also be a lot of emotional upheavals in your relationship if she is a bit complicated. Remember a little complexity in life is actually a good thing, but make sure it’s not overtly so, it maybe there are other issues as well which are not so apparent. As for the emotional upheavals, no relationship has ever been a bed of roses. Every single one has had to travel a bumpy ride to make it through. So don’t worry, her fluctuating emotions are not the end of the world.
Also, the difference between complicated and plain messy is smart. If your woman is complicated and not the latter, than there is a good chance that she is highly intelligent. And I will not elaborate the obvious benefits of having an intelligent person as your life partner.
Most of all, the fact that it will not be easy to love her, is why you should cherish her the most. Most relationships die a natural death when there is nothing dynamic left between them. When it is hard to love her, you’ll value the love the more. Moreover, the two of you will never let your love turn stale. If even one of the partners feels that they don’t need to put in any efforts in the relationship, the relationship is doomed from that instance onward.